How to be Less Lonely

Cognitive therapy and exploring and challenging the negative assumptions of lonely people might encourage us to take more social risks and make them more attractive to others.

Changing the environment to many people have a trouble forming these relationships not because of any deficient and social skills but because they’re not spending time in the right places.

In fact, it can be dangerous to over emphasize a lack of personal and social skills as a cause of loneliness. A large portion is based on proximity and similarity and when the settings are likely to meet together with people who share interests with you a conversation can be engaged around things like education level, socioeconomic background, age or hobbies.

Trying to meet people of the opposite sex in bars, or even many single groups is highly unlikely to result in satisfying long-term relationships. The people you meet there maybe pleasant, but the odds are you’ll have nothing in common with them and the future of such relationships is not promising. Think about what you are interested in and where people with the same interests as yourself are likely to be found- go there. People too often overlook this seemingly obvious but effective strategy.