Codependency Addiction & Toxic Loneliness

Codependency Addiction & Toxic Loneliness

Codependency is a secondary condition and a symptom of deeper problems.  Codependency is a result of deep shame and trauma from attachment during a child at an early age usually dealing with a narcissist parent.  Therefore this difficult environment the child tries to become a “trophy child” to stimulate their parent to live through them. 

A human doing rather than a human being this child has  to try figure out how to make that parent happy to receive the love and attention they most desperately need.

This results in the same fashion down the road as an adult to always chasing the feeling of a sense of deep loneliness and never feel a sense of love or worth.  Unable to feel comfortable in their own skin this is deeply painful.  The only pain that can be solved is falling in love with someone who can take away that pain and make them feel complete and whole.  To receive the love and afftention from their lover that deep down is the attention they wanted from as a chile from their parent.  Typically narcissist is who the codependent is attracted to.

This deeper problem can be a result of severe loneliness and this codependent attachment happens into a "Snowball" effect which things in a relationship can happen very fast and the 2 people people keep each other stimulated in their codependent situation based on unfulfilling the needs and feelings that direct into a very dysfunctional, toxic and unhealthy relationship.  

Yes it’s dysfunctional but the loneliness is held at bay.  

Is this something you've ever dealt with or currently are dealing with?  

Do you know someone who deals with this?

This is a very serious issue that slips under the rug in many cases and I think it's a very important topic that needs to be addressed for anyone who deals with being codependent.